How I Learned to Find the Good in Life – A Guest Post

I recently received an email from Heather asking if I would be willing to share a post from her in order to raise awareness of her story and of this horrible little known cancer that is such a deadly killer. As a parent I was moved by how hard it must have been to face such an illness with such a new baby. I pass you over for her to explain in her own words :-

On August 4, 2005, my first and only daughter came into the world. Less than four months later, my life turned upside down as I began fighting for my life against a diagnosis of malignant pleural mesothelioma, a cancer that attacks the lining of the lungs. Around 30 years before, I had been unknowinglyexposed to asbestos, and suddenly, I was battling just to live long enough to raise my baby girl.

There comes a time in everyone’s life when they have to rely on others. This was my time. Because the prognosis was so grim, my husband and I decided to choose the most aggressive treatment available. We flew to Boston where I would have my left lung removed in a procedure called anextrapleural pneumonectomy, while our daughter went to stay with my parents, who would care for her during my recuperation at the hospital.

During the days that followed, many people from my past surrounded my parents and Lily to care for and comfort them. Girls I had babysat when I was a teenager now came to watch Lily while my parents worked. Friends from church and other places in town helped in a myriad of ways.

In Boston, new acquaintances surrounded me with support. My mother would send photos of Lily’s development to my husband via email. He then printed them and brought them to me. The nurses would gather around my bed to “ooh” and “ah” over my little girl as we all blinked back the tears. I watched my baby learn to eat solid food and begin to scoot around on her own through those grainy black-and-white pictures. Even though I knew she was in the best hands possible, I missed her very much.

Now that I am reunited with my family and victorious in my fight against cancer, I can see how much good came of that fight. Lily developed a lasting bond with her grandparents. I developed a deeper appreciation for life. No matter what life brings me now, I know to embrace it fully. If something good can come of cancer, something good can come of anything.


You can find Heathers blog here and more information via the links in her post. I grew up with a parent who had been given a life-shortening prognosis, happily my Dad defied the odds and is still going strong, and like Heather, the whole family now has a heightened sense of appreciation for life in all its up and downs.

Make the most of it!


  1. Kat Pearce
    January 22, 2013 / 3:02 pm

    What an inspirational story. I can’t imagine how hard it must have been to leave your baby and fight off the big C. I take my hat off to you lovely lady xx

  2. January 22, 2013 / 8:53 pm

    First, this is a very moving and powerful post. Thank you for telling your story. Second, it’s a wake-up call to me. Here in the UK, about 4000 people die from asbestos-related disease every year. Around 25% of these – twenty or so per week – are active tradesmen. Of these, six or so per week are electricians. I am an electrician! PLEASE, EVERYONE, don’t ignore this hidden killer!

    Firefly Phil.

    • Sonya Cisco
      January 28, 2013 / 7:39 am

      Ode figures are frightening Phil, thanks for sharing.

  3. Lynn Fancy
    January 23, 2013 / 12:58 am

    It always worries me as when I was at Primary school the council made the then caretaker strip the Asbestos out of the boiler room – yes on his own! We were all in school. He bagged it up and a fine pink dust was over everything for weeks. The bags stayed outside the school waiting to be collected but were left for ages. This has always freaked me out and wonder if it is why I have such bad lungs now…..

    amazing post and truly inspirational.

    • Sonya Cisco
      January 28, 2013 / 7:38 am

      Wow, that is crazy- just goes to show how little was known back then!

  4. The Beesley Buzz
    January 26, 2013 / 11:46 pm

    what an amazing story of inspiration, bravery and hope! xxx

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