I have too many names, and I have had more that I ditched along the way.

Real names, maiden names, married names, nicknames, stage names.

My first husband and I were so well known by our nicknames that a few people didn’t come to our wedding as when they received their invitations with our real names on, they simply had no idea who we were.

I changed my name to his when I married the first time, and our daughter had the same name, and I liked that the three of us shared a name. But things change, divorce happened and I returned to my birth name.

I gained more stage names. Parma Violet, which over time became Parma Violent. Then Fran Cisco. The latter stuck so well that I have plenty of friends that call me Fran still, even tho the band I used that moniker in stopped sometime ago.

But I have other names too. I have had three legal names and a plethora of aliases that would suggest a life more intriguing and secretive than the reality it reflects. I have one name at the bank, and a different one for the council. I should really get my arse in gear and be the same person everywhere. But paperwork is dull and scary.

Mostly I will answer to anything. Any of the names I have gone by, Mum, terms of endearment, terms of abuse, and a simple ‘oi, you’.

I don’t feel defined by my name, hence I am happy to have several! Different hats for different roles. I love stage names, I may be shy, but Fran Cisco is less so. It’s like playing a role. I wonder which name is the real me? Or maybe they all are!! I should have different names for different moods and occasions…

Maud-Lynn Downmouth – for those melancholy days.

Vendelicia Du Bois – for when I write that romance novel, or any day where I am wearing a frilly bed jacket and too much rouge.

Frances Bellinger – that will be my name when I get round to writing a serious thesis on something. Not sure what my topic will be yet, perhaps ‘Feminism and its effects on crop rotation’, or ‘The singles of The Damned 1979-1981’, or maybe ‘Cheese- Why Cheddar is best.’

The Venerable Queen of All Things – this is the one I shall make my children address me as. Yes.

Tipsy O’Leary – particularly suited to drunken girls nights out, where cackling over vino occurs, scaring all men within hearing shot. She is VERY loud.

 Sonya Cisco – Blogger Extraordinaire, slightly plump Princess of Biscuits, spouter of nonsense masquerading as a writer.

How many names do you go by? And what name would you choose if you could?

Love Miss call me what you will Cisco XXX



  1. February 15, 2013 / 11:45 am

    Ok A dim drunken memory is with me… I think maybe I saw you play live – in a previous unmummy, misspent life!

    • Sonya Cisco
      February 15, 2013 / 12:56 pm

      ooh intriguing! Misspent lives are the most fun!

  2. February 15, 2013 / 3:13 pm

    Having had three surnames, every now and then I get caught out (usually in the presence of officialdom) and forget what I’m actually called or how to sign my name. That’s a bugger!

    • Sonya Cisco
      February 15, 2013 / 3:23 pm

      I signed the back of my debit card with the wrong name…. luckily in these chip and pin days nobody has ever noticed!!

  3. Older Mum
    February 17, 2013 / 7:52 am

    What a great post – loved reading this – and loving those names. I had a DJ moniker, and you are so right, it does bring out a different persona!

    • Sonya Cisco
      February 17, 2013 / 8:16 am

      thank you! Have just tweeted you to find out what your DJ name is- nosey huh!! 🙂

  4. Tas D
    February 17, 2013 / 8:21 am

    I have about 3 that are regularly used and I use both my maiden and my married surname…I was too lazy to change it everywhere. Then there’s the nicknames my uncle and gran gave me that have stuck 30+ years! My friends regularly like to laugh at those…I won’t say what they are though 🙂

  5. February 17, 2013 / 8:32 am

    Love the idea of different names for different days. I still occasionally use my maiden name as well as my married name. I’ve had a few nicknames along the way too.

  6. February 17, 2013 / 7:01 pm

    I love Maud Lynn Downmouth, brilliant! I only have the one other name really. Raquel xx

  7. Emily Foran
    February 22, 2013 / 12:26 am

    Mostly and usually just Mummy think I need an alias! X

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