I have too many names, and I have had more that I ditched along the way.

Real names, maiden names, married names, nicknames, stage names.

My first husband and I were so well known by our nicknames that a few people didn’t come to our wedding as when they received their invitations with our real names on, they simply had no idea who we were.

I changed my name to his when I married the first time, and our daughter had the same name, and I liked that the three of us shared a name. But things change, divorce happened and I returned to my birth name.

I gained more stage names. Parma Violet, which over time became Parma Violent. Then Fran Cisco. The latter stuck so well that I have plenty of friends that call me Fran still, even tho the band I used that moniker in stopped sometime ago.

But I have other names too. I have had three legal names and a plethora of aliases that would suggest a life more intriguing and secretive than the reality it reflects. I have one name at the bank, and a different one for the council. I should really get my arse in gear and be the same person everywhere. But paperwork is dull and scary.

Mostly I will answer to anything. Any of the names I have gone by, Mum, terms of endearment, terms of abuse, and a simple ‘oi, you’.

I don’t feel defined by my name, hence I am happy to have several! Different hats for different roles. I love stage names, I may be shy, but Fran Cisco is less so. It’s like playing a role. I wonder which name is the real me? Or maybe they all are!! I should have different names for different moods and occasions…

Maud-Lynn Downmouth – for those melancholy days.

Vendelicia Du Bois – for when I write that romance novel, or any day where I am wearing a frilly bed jacket and too much rouge.

Frances Bellinger – that will be my name when I get round to writing a serious thesis on something. Not sure what my topic will be yet, perhaps ‘Feminism and its effects on crop rotation’, or ‘The singles of The Damned 1979-1981’, or maybe ‘Cheese- Why Cheddar is best.’

The Venerable Queen of All Things – this is the one I shall make my children address me as. Yes.

Tipsy O’Leary – particularly suited to drunken girls nights out, where cackling over vino occurs, scaring all men within hearing shot. She is VERY loud.

 Sonya Cisco РBlogger Extraordinaire, slightly plump Princess of Biscuits, spouter of nonsense masquerading as a writer.

How many names do you go by? And what name would you choose if you could?

Love Miss call me what you will Cisco XXX



  1. Mary Keynko February 15, 2013 / 11:45 am

    Ok A dim drunken memory is with me… I think maybe I saw you play live – in a previous unmummy, misspent life!

    • Sonya Cisco February 15, 2013 / 12:56 pm

      ooh intriguing! Misspent lives are the most fun!

  2. Christine Dixon February 15, 2013 / 3:13 pm

    Having had three surnames, every now and then I get caught out (usually in the presence of officialdom) and forget what I’m actually called or how to sign my name. That’s a bugger!

    • Sonya Cisco February 15, 2013 / 3:23 pm

      I signed the back of my debit card with the wrong name…. luckily in these chip and pin days nobody has ever noticed!!

  3. Older Mum February 17, 2013 / 7:52 am

    What a great post – loved reading this – and loving those names. I had a DJ moniker, and you are so right, it does bring out a different persona!

    • Sonya Cisco February 17, 2013 / 8:16 am

      thank you! Have just tweeted you to find out what your DJ name is- nosey huh!! :)

  4. Tas D February 17, 2013 / 8:21 am

    I have about 3 that are regularly used and I use both my maiden and my married surname…I was too lazy to change it everywhere. Then there’s the nicknames my uncle and gran gave me that have stuck 30+ years! My friends regularly like to laugh at those…I won’t say what they are though :)

  5. Erica Price February 17, 2013 / 8:32 am

    Love the idea of different names for different days. I still occasionally use my maiden name as well as my married name. I’ve had a few nicknames along the way too.

  6. An Exeter Mum February 17, 2013 / 7:01 pm

    I love Maud Lynn Downmouth, brilliant! I only have the one other name really. Raquel xx

  7. Emily Foran February 22, 2013 / 12:26 am

    Mostly and usually just Mummy think I need an alias! X

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