Up In Smoke

Posted by on Mar 13, 2013 in Uncategorized | 14 comments

Today is ‘No Smoking Day’. When I was a smoker, being the petulant sort that I am, I just wanted to smoke more in defiance on this day. But now I haven’t smoked for two years I treat it as a day of celebration that I have kicked the habit. For now at least.

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For while some people end up being very vocal anti-smoking ex-smokers, I am not. I still miss it. It requires daily vigilance against the monkeys in my brain that try to trick me into starting again. I take a very AA approach, without the higher being oddness that having never attended a meeting I can’t profess to understand. I take it one day at a time. Today I don’t smoke, yesterday I didn’t smoke, and I hope tomorrow I won’t smoke.

I am determined not to start again, but all too aware that its call to me is powerful still. I have my reasons. Being an older mum to my youngest child, I owe it to him to do what I can to avoid an early grave. I would like to be around for him for as many years as possible. Wanting to see him grow and prosper well into adulthood is all the motivation I need.

But giving up is very personal, you can’t tell someone to give up, they have to reach that point themselves. Smoking is nice, and fun, and despite medical evidence that disagrees with me, I found it relaxing. I still don’t quite know what to do instead in times of stress. Eating biscuits is my current coping mechanism. But long term I need to replace this with something slightly less fattening! To give up requires nothing more than will power. There are lots of tips and aids you can use for moral support, but bottom line you have to make the decision for yourself that you do not want it in your life anymore.

I am thrilled that one of my closest friends, Lynn at A Slice of Lemons Cake, has recently quit. A lifelong friend, I have seen her seriously ill with chest infections many times over the years, and am so relieved she has finally reached the point where the urge to stopĀ is greater than the urge to smoke. Why don’t you pop over and give her some encouragement!

Do you smoke? Would you like to stop? Did you quit? And what was your quitting point? How do you find it now? Please tell me that eventually it will become easy!!

If you are stopping today, I wish you the best of luck,

Love Miss smoke free Cisco XXX

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  1. Marilynn

    Well done you! You should be very proud of yourself! It must be hard to stop if you’d been a smoker for a long time. I was a social smoker from the time I was 16. Drink in one hand, fag in the other. That was me. As time went on however I was smoking more and more and not just while drinking. Was smoking about a pack a day by the time I was 19 & seriously wanted to stop. Both my parents are heavy smokers and even then it was affecting my mum’s health badly (& still does). Also my gran died of COPD and I just didn’t want to end up going down that road. I stopped properly when I was 20. Wasn’t too hard as obviously I had only been smoking 4 years, and David doesn’t smoke so it helped being around someone who didn’t tempt me to start again. That isn’t to say I haven’t smoked since…I tend to sneak a puff when on a night out as I crave it most when drunk. Bad, bad girl that I am!

    • Sonya Cisco

      Yes, haven’t done drunk since I gave up yet, who knows how I will survive that particular battle, but am fairly sure that even if I caved I would get up the next day and treat it as a blip rather than starting smoking again. I hope anyway!

  2. Mummy Velvet

    Well done!! You have done amazingly.. It has to be one of the hardest things to do in life, aside give birth! I quit as soon as I found out I was pregnant with my little cherrub, only to start socially smoking once he was born. I definitely didn’t go back to smoking 20 a day but I smoked whenever I was a round friends that smoked, maybe once every few months but often enough. So, I kicked the habit completely – fag free for 1 year and 1 month until 28th of Feb… I went clubbing (never been before, the boring fart I am) but I smoked 3 fags and nearly 2 weeks later, I still have a chesty cough. Definitely, definitely, DEFINITELY… Never smoking again!!! So here’s to no smoking day and to all quitters out there!

    • Sonya Cisco

      And well done to you too! I haven’t had to face the socialising with alcohol thing just yet, am still breast feeding so not drinking, I really hope my willpower is up to that particular challenge!!

  3. Catherine

    You’ve done really well to stay off the cigs. I started smoking at 10.and by the time I was 18 I was probably smoking 30 – 50 roll ups a day. After several attempts I managed to stop completely when I turned 31.

    Four years later, after the birth of my son, I was incredibly depressed and started up again ( my reasoning at the time was it better I smoke on the back door step than open a bottle of wine at 10am – and considering how I was feeling at the time the bottle of wine would have been a completely valid option to me!). Thankfully. with the help of my doctor, I realised I had PND and she helped me enormously and my head is in a much better place now. I still smoked, tried using nicotine replacement therapy to stop several times but it just didn’t happen. I knew the reason why – I enjoy smoking too much. But when I found out i was pregnant again I knew I had to stop, so I did… and it’s bloody hard. I still miss it terribly but I know that if I was start again then I’m hurting my unborn child which I obviously don’t want.

    It’s hard but worth it… plus it means I every time I want a ciggy I have cake instead!

    • Sonya Cisco

      I went back to smoking after having my first two, but with my third I was determined to try and make it stick. One day at a time, you might find that you don’t go back this time! Good luck and that’s one of the joys of giving up because of pregnancy, you can eat all the cake- tho I did put on 4 stone with mine so be careful! :)

  4. Wally Mummy

    Well done you x I gave up three years ago. It was the only thing i’ve ever done that’s harder than having a baby! lol ;) I only managed it because I a had the motivation of getting married and wanting to start a family and just NOT wanting to start that journey with a fag in hand… otherwise I reckon I’d still be chugging away now! I only miss having cigarettes in exchange for food which made me thin :)) LOL x

  5. thepuffindiaries.com

    You’ve done so well. Big pat on the back. I have demons of a similar nature but mine get poured out of a bottle. Still on my one year off alcohol and every time I get stressed (a lot) I want a nice glass of wine,so I do understand how they call you and how hard it is. Be proud you’re doing amazingly well. x

    • Sonya Cisco

      I wonder what will happen when I can have more than 2 units to drink, am hoping the willpower to not smoke will stick then! It has definitely helped that I don’t drink more than a glass at the moment. Well done you too, it’s hard giving up,our vices, even if we know it is for our own good!

  6. Marissa Coltman

    I gave up when I found out I was pregnant with my first son but then started again when I stopped breastfeeding (only outside the house). I gave up again when I found out I was pregnant this time and am already looking forward to smoking again. I honestly don’t know if I’ll ever manage to give up as I really enjoy it. Previous attempts just to smoke at weekends/social events/etc have proved futile. Well done you x

    • Sonya Cisco

      If it gives you hope, I went back to it after my first two babies too, but I got there in the end, and I hope this time it will stick!

  7. Lynn Fancy

    Pickupwomenrealeasy.com? Now is that picking up women easily or picking up easy women…?? Mmmmmm the mind boggles…

    I digress..

    Yes! I have stopped – I refuse to say ‘given up’ as this makes me think I am stopping myself from having something I like…well I am but I’m not dwelling! Thank you for the support Sonya, you are brilliant to have stayed off them this long and like you say today we are non smokers and we hope to be tomorrow..
    We still have our 80th Birthdays to look forward to! Cig, Pint and a pair of Tena!

    • Sonya Cisco

      Now I have sent the above comment into spam you just look like a weirdo! Haha! Very proud of you, it isn’t easy, keep it up!

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