Bye Bye Boobie??

I am leaving Syd tomorrow. For a whole 36 hours. It will be the longest we have been apart since he was born. I don’t leave him often at all. An hour or two here and there with the teen, so me and the bloke can have a quick meal out. Or an evening with my mum while I go to watch a band.

When my elder two were small I was still playing in bands. So while I was at home with them all week in the day, from when they were a fairly young age I often went away for a night to do a gig.  This meant they had to learn to be a little more self-sufficient, and possibly as a result of this, they had both self-weaned by 14 months old.

Syd has not self-weaned. Syd still likes to be breastfed almost to sleep, he wakes a couple of times still for a slurp in the night, and as we co-sleep this is not overly disruptive for either of us. It does however mean that his Dad possibly faces a difficult night tomorrow night, while I am swanning about at the BritMums Live blogging conference.

I have been trying to wind down feeding, following the don’t offer, don’t refuse approach. I have also finally managed to get him to drink milk from a beaker. He will now drink endless amounts, but still wants mummy’s milk too.

As he heads in towards two, I am feeling more and more ready to stop, although it will be with a degree of sadness, as Syd will be my last baby, and I have enjoyed feeding him for an extended period. I am hoping some of you may have some tips/distraction techniques/general tales of success you can regale me with. I am not a huge fan of the idea of an abrupt stop, but rather am hoping to encourage him to stop, or at least give him a gentle nudge in the right direction so that when I decide enough is enough it is less stressful for him.

We are gradually replacing the lunchtime feed with a nap in the pushchair. And employing the No Cry Sleep Solution techniques at night means he can now fall asleep without being attached to me, and as a result is going much longer between wakings, and meaning we have finally reclaimed our evenings. Part of me is secretly hoping that a miracle will occur tomorrow night, and that he will just sleep without me, meaning we could just do a few nights with me on the sofa to break the habit, but bearing in mind the only other time I have been away for the night it took until the small hours for him to go to sleep, I am thinking it is unlikely!

I have adored being able to breastfeed my three babies, and will miss the feeling of closeness it provides, but equally, now Syd is becoming a little boy before my eyes, I am starting to feel that it is the right time for both of us to move onto the next stage of our relationship – still plenty of cuddles, just no milk!

I will carry on the path I am on for now, but if following his second birthday in the middle of August we are seeing no natural progress I may have to consider a few sleepless nights as the solution, lets hope it doesn’t come to that!

Love Miss Cisco XXX

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  1. Anonymous
    June 20, 2013 / 10:51 am

    I breastfed my boy until he was about 18 or 19 months and was quite lucky in that he easily accepted the way I scaled him down (which was almost always due to necessity rather than choice). For the last few months he only had a short feed (10/15 mins) before bed. I noticed that he had started to get quite fussy and distracted while feeding so one day I decided not to feed him myself that evening but have milk in a sippy cup ready if he wanted it. He didn’t and that was that. It was a bit sad though!

    My guess is that a break from you might be what’s needed – not in a nasty way! Just that if you’re not there, he can’t have you feed him and maybe scaling down the times you feed him (or the length of feeds) might work. I swear all my friends thought I was mad for feeding him as long as I did but there was never a reason to stop. I felt comfortable when we did drop the final feed as I felt like it was what he was telling me to do. Good luck! x

    • Sonya Cisco
      June 20, 2013 / 11:14 am

      thanks for your comment, your experience sounds fab, am hoping we can go down a similar route shortly!

  2. SarahMummy
    June 20, 2013 / 11:47 am

    Good luck! I just dropped a feed every few days to gradually wind down to nothing, but that was at 16 months. They also weren’t being fed at night and just had regular daytime feeds, which probably makes it easier. Sorry to be as much use as a chocolate teapot!

    • Sonya Cisco
      June 20, 2013 / 12:29 pm

      haha, thats ok, my big two were like that too, which is why Syd is such a bafflement to me!

  3. Stephanie
    June 22, 2013 / 8:28 pm

    My two year old still feeds. I left her for a whole week and the first thing she did when I got through the door was to ask for ‘boo boo’. I have been winding down bit by bit. I have been saying no boo boo in the night a lot and I got one of those gro clocks and told her no boo boo until you see the sun which has helped. She gets a morning and night feed now. Next one to go is the morning feed, like you I don’t want an abrupt end. Good luck!

    • Sonya Cisco
      June 23, 2013 / 8:15 am

      Wow, even after a week! I got backlast night and was asked for a feed within 5 minutes! Bless! Like the idea of the gro clock for night feeds tho, might give that a go! Thanks for commenting.

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