Top 5 Life Lessons

The lovely Kate Takes 5 has made a storming return to her Listography linky with her fabulous post about her Top 5 Life Lessons. Here are mine:-

1) Don’t be afraid to make a tit of yourself. Now I am properly old I have decided life is too short to turn down opportunities through fear of embarrassing yourself. Take this coming weekend- I am on a panel at Mumsnet Blogfest that sees me sitting alongside some luminaries of comic writing. I could have said ‘No, I am not worthy’, but I said yes. I don’t know as much as them, there is every chance I will make a fool of myself and I will be properly terrified on the day, but I know I will be proud of myself for giving it a shot. Pop a toe outside your comfort zone sometimes, unless you are near one of those fish pedicure things, in which case run away fast.

2) Don’t leave it too late. My Grandad died last week, and just before he died I wrote a blogpost about the things I wish I had thanked him for, but couldn’t get the words out at a time of such heightened emotion. Share the love now, and everyday. Don’t save your kind words for someones eulogy, tell them to their face while they can hear and enjoy it.

3) Be Brave. Sometimes the good things in life take a real leap of faith to gain. I guess the normal advice is don’t be rash, but I think sometimes trusting your gut is a good thing, unless it’s gambling, probably unwise to bet your house because you have a ‘good feeling’ about a gee-gee!

4) Follow your own dreams, not those the media suggests you should have. It is always lovely to have dreams, but it is loveliest when those aspirations are genuine and heartfelt rather than borrowed from the pages of a glossy magazine. For example I used to have visions of one day being grown up enough to live in one of those beautiful homes you see so often in the Sunday supplements. You know the ones I mean, all pastel coloured and clutter free apart from the occasional vintage find sourced from a flea market in Belgium. It took me until my mid-thirties to accept that I am a total slattern with a love of collecting kitsch nonsense, and to adjust my dream home vision accordingly. Now I want to live in a colourful, cosy home, with lots and lots of shelving, possibly with a garden inhabited by pink plastic flamingos, and preferably a summer house that has been converted into a Tiki themed bar.

5) Not everybody has to like you, and vice versa. I am not everybodies cup of tea, and there are plenty of people who aren’t my maraschino decorated cocktail as well. But that is fine, it takes all sorts to make the world go around. I am not suggesting we are mean to those who we may not be crazy about, I am a huge believer in being nice to everyone. In fact figuring out why you dislike someone can teach you something about yourself. I am more saying so what if someone isn’t a fan of you, don’t dwell on it, or assume it says something bad about you. Maybe they secretly envy the very aspects of you that they profess to dislike, or maybe your tastes just clash or perhaps you just smell wrong (am not suggesting you smell bad, you smell lovely, it’s a pheromone thing!). Who knows? My advice is be kind to them, be respectful to them, and then move along as quickly as possible to someone you can have a proper giggle with.

If I was allowed more I might include- don’t take advice off of me, (I know nothing and am rambling over my first cup of coffee of the day), and to always remember stuff in the oven is hot. The latter I have learnt to my cost on many occasions – someone tie an oven glove round my neck every time I step into the kitchen please.

Love Miss Cisco XXX



  1. November 5, 2013 / 9:17 am

    having seen your house I’d agree with it – I could sit on your settee and admire your collection of everything for a LONG time! Must start that linky….. x

    • Sonya Cisco
      November 5, 2013 / 4:28 pm

      That is because we are kindred spirits of the crap hoarding variety! X

  2. Little Lilypad Co
    November 5, 2013 / 9:46 am

    I love “be brave” …. this is a lesson I need to learn xx

    • Sonya Cisco
      November 5, 2013 / 4:28 pm

      I am not always very good at it! X

  3. November 5, 2013 / 12:27 pm

    Ha! I just assume anyone who doesn’t like me is an idiot and therefore I don’t want them in my life anyway. Good one. Number two is terribly hard. It’s hard knowing when too late is too late and it’s hard to get the words out. Sorry to read about your grandad, my dear. It gets easier for you and for everyone. I always tell the girls dying isn’t sad – it’s only sad if you die and no-one cares. Love listography. Off to join in now…..

    • Sonya Cisco
      November 5, 2013 / 4:27 pm

      Anyone who doesn’t like you clearly IS an idiot! X

  4. caligula
    November 5, 2013 / 2:52 pm

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  5. Shiv Ferguson
    November 5, 2013 / 3:25 pm

    sorry realised that I was signed in as my son!

    Oh loads of people don’t like me. After all I am pretty grumpy and opinionated. Luckily I have lots of awesome friends who find that being genuine makes up for it. I am nice to people I don’t particularly like and who don’t like me. It takes quite a lot to make me rabidly hate someone, but when I do there is no going back. This emotion is reserved for those who hurt my child. Yeah I hold a grudge in those cases big time. My life lesson that I have learned is to not accept disloyalty. I don’t mind if you don’t go as far as I would like when you see the person in question. You don’t have to spit in her eye, or stab her with a fork, but you can’t be best mates with both of us.

    The other life lesson is that life is too short to do DIY. A bit of it is fine, but my boy and I have decided we would rather have a crappy house and spend our money and freetime on going to gigs and festies.

    • Sonya Cisco
      November 5, 2013 / 4:26 pm

      Haha I had guessed it was you! And you a right, I may be pragmatic about people not liking me, but if someone is mean to my kids they bite watch out! And I leave any DIY to Andy- not that we do very much, being very firmly in your camp about fun being more important than the perfect house!

  6. Older Single Mum
    November 5, 2013 / 4:14 pm

    It’s no surprise you’ve been asked to speak at blogfest with posts like these my dear – heartfelt, funny, yet full of common sense. Brilliant Listo xx

    • Sonya Cisco
      November 5, 2013 / 4:26 pm

      Thank you lovely lady, see you on Saturday! Xx

  7. otilia stocks
    November 6, 2013 / 9:08 am

    Brilliant List Sonya! I love the one about – not everyone is like you and vice versa. So true!

  8. SarahMummy
    November 6, 2013 / 10:42 am

    I think this advice is brilliant. I haven’t been brave enough or followed my dreams enough and I’m starting to regret that at 40. I like the idea of accepting you don’t like everyone and everyone doesn’t like you. I’ve recently annoyed a friend by telling her I didn’t like another friend of hers. I don’t get why she’s annoyed! Of course I don’t like everyone and not does she! I know not everyone likes me and that’s fine too. X

  9. November 6, 2013 / 11:34 am

    A fabulous post but I’m so sorry to hear about your Grandad. I’m quite sure he knew all the things you needed to say to him despite your not being able to say them. Bug hugs to you. xxx

  10. November 6, 2013 / 3:29 pm

    This listography thing’s a bit of a hoot, isn’t it! Great list, and your opening shot was pretty similar as my parting one. Number 2 is very resonant. My parents are in very good health for their age (touch wood), but they are definitely looking at fewer days ahead than behind (my dad’s nearly 90). I’m never sure I’ve told them enough how much I love them, or way more importantly, why.

    New to your blog, by the way, and what a great blog name.

  11. Suzanne Whitton
    November 6, 2013 / 6:52 pm

    This is such a great linky and a fabulous post of yours. I couldn’t top the 5 points you mentioned, especially no.5, I’m still learning that one but it’s such a great piece of advice to live by…one I’m trying to teach my kiddies too 🙂

  12. Older Mum
    November 6, 2013 / 7:09 pm

    Well I am really looking forward to hearing you speak this weekend. I loved this post. X

  13. Adventures of a Middle-aged Matron
    November 7, 2013 / 11:41 am

    What a wise and insightful list which has made me feel guilty because I’m not sure I’m capable of any of them. But I don’t let the fact that we’ve never met get in the way of my great liking of you!

  14. Mama Syder
    November 8, 2013 / 6:57 pm

    Brilliant list! Love the one about being brave x

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