Why do we care?

My twitter feed was full of heartfelt messages about the sad death of Peaches Geldof last night. None of us knew her, probably if you had asked us the day before we wouldn’t have had a huge opinion on her, except that most of us were on Team Geldof when she appeared with Katie Hopkins on This Morning a few months back. So why do we care so much?

I think it is probably because a lot of my twitter feed is made up of Mums. Our hearts break at the thought of being snatched from our own babies, and our hearts break for those two little boys left without a Mum who so visibly doted on them.

We empathise. We relate, even though we didn’t know her. I remember not really understanding the fuss when Diana died, I wasn’t a royalist, I wasn’t really interested. Then I saw the card emblazoned with the word ‘Mummy’ on her coffin and my eyes leaked as I picked up my then year old daughter.

I remember when Peaches mother, Paula Yates, died. I grew up with her being the coolest thing on telly. She had the rock star husband, yet also was brilliant in her own right. Clever, beautiful, funny, and stylish in a way my pre-teen eyes watching The Tube could only dream of growing up to be. Her youngest child is the same age as my oldest child, and yet again when she died, it was the bond of motherhood we shared that made me so sad for her and her family.

It is that same shared bond of understanding that breaks our hearts when watching charity reports from other parts of the world. We understand the fierce need to protect our children, and that is why it is so difficult to watch Mothers trying to do the same in much harder circumstances. The reason I open my wallet is as much to protect those mothers as it is to help those children. And it never seems to be enough really.

Being a mother makes me feel a bond with other mothers. Those I know, those I don’t know. You may do it differently to me, but I know how much you love those children, and that however meek you may be in other ways, there is a lioness in you that will do anything to protect them.

The fear of being snatched cruelly away from the joy of watching our small people grow is second only to having them snatched away from us too soon. We all mourn a little for both Peaches and Bob, while hoping it is a pain we never have to feel from closer quarters.

Am off to hold my babies a little closer for the day, for this is a sad reminder that you never know how many days you have,

Love Miss Cisco XXX

lily

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  1. April 8, 2014 / 9:07 am

    Beautiful post. Hearing of the loss of a mother and thinking of the poor children left behind breaks my heart every time. Then I think of her dad losing his daughter and it makes me even sadder. This week my son’s school lost its second pupil in just over a year. I can’t bear to think of the pain all of those families are going through because they all loved their children as much as we do. X
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    • April 8, 2014 / 9:22 am

      Yes, I read your post this morning, absolutely tragic, those poor families xx

  2. Isobelle Forde
    April 8, 2014 / 9:10 am

    As heartless as it may sound, the death of a young person on some level makes me think about my own mortality, how precious life is and no matter how wonderful life can seem it can all be snatched away. I’m relieved that Peaches was found quickly, some indication that people loved and cared about her. I read about a lady called Joyce Vincent some time ago who wasn’t discovered for three years, her tv was still on in her flat and her body on the sofa when authorities broke in. That really haunts me still.

    • April 8, 2014 / 9:21 am

      Yes, I read that story too, and like you found it very sad. I think the death of anyone makes us think of our own mortality, but all the more so when it is unexpected.

  3. April 8, 2014 / 9:45 am

    Such a moving post. You’re absolutely right, it is the fact Peaches was a mother that her death made me sad. Her children are so young and it’s so sad to think they won’t really remember her.
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  4. April 8, 2014 / 9:51 am

    Ahhh, Sonya, this is a perfect post. You’ve captured everything I’ve been thinking and said it far more eloquently than I ever could. It has been very interesting seeing the stark contrast between the initial mainstream media coverage of Peaches’ death and the commentary on social media, which I think has been much less sensational and far more human. Yay bloggers. xx
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  5. April 8, 2014 / 11:04 am

    It’s so so sad isn’t it? I couldn’t stop thinking of her babies and I just can’t imagine why any of her family must be going through right now. It’s scary to think someone can be here fit and healthy today and then just gone tomorrow, just like that.
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  6. April 8, 2014 / 12:06 pm

    So many tragedies have happened to that family I think you would have to be quite heartless not to feel moved by such horrible news. I feel so sorry for those little boys growing up without their Mum.
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  7. April 8, 2014 / 1:30 pm

    It feels confusing when you hear something like this. On the face of it, you shouldn’t care that much – you never knew her.
    But like you i felt as if someone had winded me, sick to the core.
    Such a terribly sad thing to happen, and all i can think about is those two boys, not that much younger than my own.
    A lovely post x
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  8. April 8, 2014 / 1:41 pm

    beautiful post, and exactly how I feel. Peaches was not much younger than me, her children almost the same ages as mine and it really makes me realise the fragility of life. I am thinking of her family
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  9. April 8, 2014 / 2:38 pm

    A big old yes to all the above. She seemed like a nice person, although hardly someone I was ever going to get the chance to hang out with, but waking up this morning and thinking if her children waking up and wanting their mummy just made me feel infinitely sad x

  10. April 8, 2014 / 3:04 pm

    To care is human.
    My friend dies as well on the same day .
    The world is full of sorrow making us hold our love ones all the closer.
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  11. April 8, 2014 / 4:07 pm

    There is a very dark, sad side to celebrity. I hate celebrity for celebrity’s sake and all the trappings that go with it, it is so destructive. Those poor baby boys 🙁
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  12. April 8, 2014 / 5:33 pm

    It is so upsetting. Poor family. She seems so bright and as you say a doting mother. I hope for her families sake that she didn’t take her own life. x
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  13. April 8, 2014 / 7:53 pm

    This news made me cry, and I wasn’t always a Peaches fan though had grown to respect and admire her. I’ve never felt so affected by the death of a person I didn’t know – I guess I’ve never identified so much with a famous person before, but I saw her as another mum who adored her children, and now she’s gone.
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  14. Style After Nine
    April 8, 2014 / 9:30 pm

    Exactly my sentiments. She came into her own as a mother – intelligent, natural and nurturing. Our older sons are just a couple of weeks apart, which makes her death even more poignant for me, as we were pregnant at the same time and leaving my son motherless is a niggling nightmare. All so tragic, her poor babies, her poor husband, her poor family…a heart-wrenching post to write.

  15. April 8, 2014 / 9:50 pm

    Beautiful post. And I’m with you – just brings the fragility of life home. I never knew her, or that much about her, and I was surprised by how hard I found the news of her untimely death. I guess it’s partly that she leaves two babies behind, but also how, at 25, she was pretty much a baby herself. I can’t bear that she had so much to live for x
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  16. April 8, 2014 / 10:04 pm

    Such a moving post. So true. The fragility of life is brought into sharp focus once you become a mother, and like so many other commenters, the thought of her two babies without a mummy is the saddest thougt of all. Rest in peace. x
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  17. April 8, 2014 / 10:25 pm

    I can’t stop thinking about her death either, probably for all the reasons you have already stated. I thought Bob Geldoff spoke beautifully when he said their family was fractured so often, but never broken.
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  18. Julia Annandale
    April 8, 2014 / 11:07 pm

    All the above says it all beautifully – so, so sad for all those who loved her.
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  19. April 8, 2014 / 11:26 pm

    This is such a lovely post, it’s such a tragedy that she’s been taken so young from her family and you can’t imagine how her family is feeling right now. my thoughts are with them and a renewed appreciation and gratitude for the health and love of my boy. x
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  20. April 9, 2014 / 7:46 am

    It is a tragedy that she has been taken so young and all the speculation is uncalled for and wrong. I feel for her family who have been through so much already and those two young boys.
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  21. April 9, 2014 / 4:51 pm

    Yes, as mothers we can all identify with how sad this makes us feel. Too cruel to be taken so young and leave children without a mum.
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  22. April 9, 2014 / 7:10 pm

    Brilliant post. Just brilliant. I cried when I found out about her death. What a tragic legacy the Geldof’s have. X
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