Moving Decisions

Some things are easy.

‘Would you like chocolate or coffee cake?’ ‘Both please.’

‘Would you like to live in this slightly grotty flat or be homeless?’ ‘The flat, please.’

See, easy. And that literally was the choice when I moved in here. There was a timescale, it was nearly up, and over the past four and a half years the slightly grotty flat has become our home. It isn’t grotty at all. I don’t know why that was my first impression anymore. Probably because when I viewed it, it had been empty for months meaning it was cold and dusty. Viewing on a dark December day didn’t help.
 
In reality it is a vast, lovely, wonky old building, built in the late 18th century and with not a straight floor or door in sight. I adore it’s size and of course all the love filling it has made it ours.

But we want to move, we want a garden and some parking now the teen has passed her test. This is where decision making is hard. There is no sword of Damocles, we have all the time in the world in theory, and I am struggling to make decisions.
 
I have always been a delayer. Homework at the last minute, work deadlines scurried through. Given time I prevaricate. A prime example of my ability to get easily diverted from the matter in hand is that I was looking for an image for this post. ‘Which house?’ is what I popped into google images. Did I choose an image? No, I got distracted by a ‘Which character in House MD are you?’ quiz. Dr. House of course.

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Going back to the cake question, it is like I have been asked to choose a cake, but whichever cake I choose, I can only eat that cake for the next few years. And not only that, but the cake varieties are only being made available every couple of weeks, and if you don’t choose that chocolate cake you saw yesterday, it might be all gone once you have viewed next weeks lemon cake and realised that the chocolate cake was right for you all along.
 
In that circumstance I am terrible at decisions. I don’t want to miss out on the theoretical perfect thing by taking the almost perfect thing in front of me.
 
If I was buying, I would be all about the heart, but we are renting, so I guess it is about practicalities. One of the problems is that I have eyes bigger than my budget. The houses I dream of are beyond our purse.
 
Off for a second viewing this morning. A nice house. Maybe we will take it. Am taking my other half with me, in the hope that he is better at deciding than me. Given that it can take us an hour to choose what to eat for tea, I don’t hold out an awful lot of hope for a quick decision about something that is going to cost us a few thousand pounds, but the rental market here moves too quickly for ditherers.
 
My teenager has been getting right into the whole experience, and has been overdosing on Location, Location, Location. She keeps going all Allsop on me, and pointing out all my irrational behaviours and the positives in the houses we view. I am half expecting her to start pointing out which walls we should knock through – though I can’t imagine many landlords are looking for teen demolition experts as tenants. She is often right in what she says though, half considering letting her decide!
 
So what is it to be – a Victoria sponge or do we wait for the three tiered extravaganza?
 
Love Miss Cisco XXX
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  1. April 29, 2014 / 8:43 am

    good luck! I love your flat, but I know why you have to move – hope today is good. You just need to work out if there’s enough room for all the Green Day memorabilia…
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  2. April 29, 2014 / 10:14 am

    So difficult knowing that you might choose second or third best when first best might be just around the corner, but I guess you have to trust your instincts and not get hung up on something that might never be. It sounds like you need your teen with you to help you make a decision! Their heads can be so much clearer than ours.
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  3. Emily
    April 29, 2014 / 11:18 am

    Good luck finding your new home.

  4. April 29, 2014 / 11:26 am

    Oh gosh, I am feeling all of this at the moment. Getting so very fed up with the house-hunting. Nothing is quite ticking all of the boxes, and by the time I think perhaps maybe I can compromise on something, that one is no longer available. Bleh.
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  5. April 29, 2014 / 11:47 am

    I am easily distracted too, something I’m trying to change. Good luck I hope you find the perfect house.

  6. April 29, 2014 / 11:54 am

    It is so difficult trying to find that perfect home isn’t it. Especially when you really like where you are. Good luck! I hope you find what you are looking for soon.
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  7. April 29, 2014 / 3:03 pm

    Sounds exciting! I know what you mean I live in a flat, its a bit rough around the edges and I love it, but I still hanker for a house with a garden
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  8. April 29, 2014 / 6:30 pm

    That’s such a tricky decision but I think I would go for Victoria sponge. When I’ve been house-hunting, I’ve had to learn fast that the houses I really want – the wedding cake marvels – are just out of my budget or not available. So it’s really about the best house available for you at the time you want it. Good luck!
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  9. April 29, 2014 / 7:22 pm

    The very best of luck finding your new pad…. it’s such a mission isn’t it!? I hope you liked the one you went to visit today…. and have a slice of cake anyway! X
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  10. April 29, 2014 / 8:05 pm

    Good luck in finding your new home lovely, hope you find the perfect one! xxx

  11. April 29, 2014 / 8:23 pm

    good luck! it’s hard isn’t it?! we rent, and I love my house, it’s perfect if only it were bigger, we just can’t afford a bigger house :/
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  12. April 29, 2014 / 9:12 pm

    I remember when we were buying our house and it felt like I viewed so many houses that just were not quite right. I hope you find your dream house soon xx
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  13. April 29, 2014 / 9:23 pm

    I love that your teenager is getting involved in it too! Good luck with finding your perfect place – house buying is so stressful but also really worth it!
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  14. April 29, 2014 / 9:25 pm

    My eyes are too big for my our budget too. I have fantasies of a huge old farmhouse with a massive budget to renovate it. Never going to happen. We are stuck renting and unable to move but I remember all to well the worry that you will miss out on a house, but what if the next one would be better. The what ifs are so tricky to navigate! Good luck x
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  15. April 30, 2014 / 9:35 am

    Good luck! Hope you find the perfect home 🙂 I wish we could buy our own home but i’m useless at saving haha! x
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  16. Lisa Prince (@BEAUTY_IIAO)
    April 30, 2014 / 10:00 am

    we have moved 4 times in the past 6 years due to our ever growing family , the space is much needed and even though we thought we had settled here , we love it but its too small and now looking to mov yet again to accomodate us all x

  17. April 30, 2014 / 1:48 pm

    We really need to move but finances won’t allow at present. I hope you find somewhere you love
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  18. April 30, 2014 / 9:13 pm

    Good luck finding somewhere you love. House searching can be a very tough job at times!

  19. May 1, 2014 / 9:38 pm

    I am so the same, do I want to move or not, this flat or that. It drives my husband mad. I would love a garden but not sure if i’m willing to sacrifice the georgian features. I do love a good Location Location Location though 🙂
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  20. May 2, 2014 / 4:57 pm

    I hope the viewing went well, these decisions are some of the hardest we have to make so I don’t blame you for going back and forth – a home is important!
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  21. May 13, 2014 / 12:02 am

    Sometimes you think ‘ugh – orange poppyseed cake’. But then you try it, and it’s super moist and moreish and wonderous. Likewise sometimes you go for the mud cake, and it tastes more of mud than chocolate. So you never know – and the memories you build there will soon be more important than whether or not you could knock through the rooms.
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