Eighteen

I am coming of age as a Mum. I have successfully raised a child from birth to adulthood, and I am only marginally more insane than when I started. I cannot believe she is eighteen, but equally I cannot remember life without her.

 

betsy

 

I have been a bit crap at marriage and that, my longest relationship faltered just before the ten year mark (though I have high hopes this one will go the distance!). I left home for the first time at seventeen, so she is officially the person I have lived longest with.

In 13 months-ish that may be over, at least in a full time capacity, as she is hoping to naff off to Uni then, and I simply cannot imagine daily life without her. *grabs tissues at the very thought*

In the 18 years since we first met she has driven me through every known emotion – joy, fear, panic, anger, frustration, happiness, and beyond all of the others – love. My first-born, the baby who transformed me from girl to mother at just turned twenty three. I could not have imagined how much I was going to adore her before she was born, or how I would go to the ends of the earth to protect her. And nothing has changed much, woe betide anyone who hurts my baby girl – I still have to stop myself ringing her mates if they upset her in the usual teenage fashion.

She is utterly hopeless and utterly brilliant at the same time. Her room is a mess but her heart is enormous. She wants to be a teacher, and has just completed work experience at a school, which she adored, particularly working with the disabled children in the class. She will be brilliant at it – small people swarm to her natural warmth and smile.

She is so beautiful, and can’t see it. She is funny and daft and gullible and looks for the good in things and is easily hurt by those with less kind ways. She is stubborn, boy she was a tricky toddler, more determined than me, often winning our stand-offs. But go her, I am a doormat, I am glad she isn’t so easily swayed!

She has taught me how big my heart is. She has taught me to relish the joy of watching the world through someone else’s eyes, and the pain of having to let her make her own mistakes and wiping her tears.

Welcome to adulthood Betsy May, although you have a little while left before the true dullness of bills and practicalities hit you – make the most of it! Enjoy your beauty while you are young, and enjoy the journey – even the crap bits usually lead to good bits and the travelling is often as good as the destination.

And don’t forget, you will always be my baby,

Love Miss Mum Cisco XXX

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17 Comments

  1. August 10, 2014 / 9:51 am

    Happy birthday beautiful Betsey xxx

  2. August 10, 2014 / 10:54 am

    Happy birthday to your daughter! A lovely post which I can completely relate to, my biggest boy turned 18 a few months ago and the dreaded date for leaving home and going to Uni is fast approaching; my feelings swing between excitement (for him) and the knowledge of how much I’ll miss him.

  3. August 11, 2014 / 8:34 am

    I don’t know if it’s just the preggo hormones but I am now officially weepy at work – gorgeous post Sonya! (And what a stunner Betsy is!!)
    x

  4. August 11, 2014 / 8:36 am

    Really lovely post. A big Happy Birthday to her. She sounds like she will be an amazing teacher.

  5. August 11, 2014 / 12:07 pm

    Happy Birthday Betsy – and well done Sonya, you’ve raised a lovely daughter 🙂

  6. August 11, 2014 / 1:37 pm

    Oh man you have made me all weepy. Happy birthday Betsy. She is stunning btw!

  7. August 11, 2014 / 5:18 pm

    Gorgeous girl! Happy birthday.

    *sigh* I remember turning 18 like it was yesterday.

  8. August 11, 2014 / 5:21 pm

    Yep, I might have some pee pee in my eyes too. What a wonderful post and what a wonderful girl you’ve raised there. Happy birthday Betsy and happy birthday, mum x

  9. August 11, 2014 / 6:58 pm

    Happy birthday Betsy! You sounds like a truly lovely person – just like your mum! Now give her a big hug from her brain twin and squeeze her tight for me!

  10. August 11, 2014 / 10:02 pm

    What a lovely post. Well done you for raising such an amazing young woman. Happy birthday, Betsy!

  11. August 12, 2014 / 7:41 am

    I’m welling up and I’ve got a lump in my throat *dabs eyes*.I hope Betsy had a great day and appreciates you being her mum.

  12. August 12, 2014 / 10:56 am

    What a beautiful post! I am genuinely tearing up. I hope she has an amazing journey at university 🙂

  13. August 12, 2014 / 11:26 am

    How can she not know she is beautiful – she is absolutely gorgeous. Happy birthday to her – hope she has a great time at Uni. x

  14. August 12, 2014 / 3:10 pm

    Beautiful Sonya and Happy Birthday Betsy. May all your dreams come true.

  15. August 13, 2014 / 11:11 am

    18 wow that’s a special one! Happy birthday Betsey

  16. August 13, 2014 / 9:47 pm

    Ahh gorgeous, I saw some pictures of you and Betsy on Fb and she is stunning, well done Sonya on bringing up a lovely young lady. Mich x

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