Eighteen

Posted by on Aug 10, 2014 in Featured, Parenting | 17 comments

I am coming of age as a Mum. I have successfully raised a child from birth to adulthood, and I am only marginally more insane than when I started. I cannot believe she is eighteen, but equally I cannot remember life without her.

 

betsy

 

I have been a bit crap at marriage and that, my longest relationship faltered just before the ten year mark (though I have high hopes this one will go the distance!). I left home for the first time at seventeen, so she is officially the person I have lived longest with.

In 13 months-ish that may be over, at least in a full time capacity, as she is hoping to naff off to Uni then, and I simply cannot imagine daily life without her. *grabs tissues at the very thought*

In the 18 years since we first met she has driven me through every known emotion – joy, fear, panic, anger, frustration, happiness, and beyond all of the others – love. My first-born, the baby who transformed me from girl to mother at just turned twenty three. I could not have imagined how much I was going to adore her before she was born, or how I would go to the ends of the earth to protect her. And nothing has changed much, woe betide anyone who hurts my baby girl – I still have to stop myself ringing her mates if they upset her in the usual teenage fashion.

She is utterly hopeless and utterly brilliant at the same time. Her room is a mess but her heart is enormous. She wants to be a teacher, and has just completed work experience at a school, which she adored, particularly working with the disabled children in the class. She will be brilliant at it – small people swarm to her natural warmth and smile.

She is so beautiful, and can’t see it. She is funny and daft and gullible and looks for the good in things and is easily hurt by those with less kind ways. She is stubborn, boy she was a tricky toddler, more determined than me, often winning our stand-offs. But go her, I am a doormat, I am glad she isn’t so easily swayed!

She has taught me how big my heart is. She has taught me to relish the joy of watching the world through someone else’s eyes, and the pain of having to let her make her own mistakes and wiping her tears.

Welcome to adulthood Betsy May, although you have a little while left before the true dullness of bills and practicalities hit you – make the most of it! Enjoy your beauty while you are young, and enjoy the journey – even the crap bits usually lead to good bits and the travelling is often as good as the destination.

And don’t forget, you will always be my baby,

Love Miss Mum Cisco XXX

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  1. Jay

    Happy birthday to your daughter! A lovely post which I can completely relate to, my biggest boy turned 18 a few months ago and the dreaded date for leaving home and going to Uni is fast approaching; my feelings swing between excitement (for him) and the knowledge of how much I’ll miss him.
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  2. Nikki Thmas

    Beautiful post xx
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  3. Kelly

    I don’t know if it’s just the preggo hormones but I am now officially weepy at work – gorgeous post Sonya! (And what a stunner Betsy is!!)
    x
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  4. Notmyyearoff

    Really lovely post. A big Happy Birthday to her. She sounds like she will be an amazing teacher.
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  5. Manneskjur

    Happy Birthday Betsy – and well done Sonya, you’ve raised a lovely daughter :)
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  6. Mum of One

    Oh man you have made me all weepy. Happy birthday Betsy. She is stunning btw!
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  7. Liz Burton

    Gorgeous girl! Happy birthday.

    *sigh* I remember turning 18 like it was yesterday.
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  8. Carolin

    Yep, I might have some pee pee in my eyes too. What a wonderful post and what a wonderful girl you’ve raised there. Happy birthday Betsy and happy birthday, mum x
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  9. Mary Keynko

    Happy birthday Betsy! You sounds like a truly lovely person – just like your mum! Now give her a big hug from her brain twin and squeeze her tight for me!
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  10. Sarah MumofThree World

    What a lovely post. Well done you for raising such an amazing young woman. Happy birthday, Betsy!
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  11. Aly

    I’m welling up and I’ve got a lump in my throat *dabs eyes*.I hope Betsy had a great day and appreciates you being her mum.
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  12. Hanna Maria

    What a beautiful post! I am genuinely tearing up. I hope she has an amazing journey at university :)
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  13. Pinkoddy

    How can she not know she is beautiful – she is absolutely gorgeous. Happy birthday to her – hope she has a great time at Uni. x
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  14. Emma

    Beautiful Sonya and Happy Birthday Betsy. May all your dreams come true.
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  15. becky

    18 wow that’s a special one! Happy birthday Betsey
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  16. Michelle Twin Mum

    Ahh gorgeous, I saw some pictures of you and Betsy on Fb and she is stunning, well done Sonya on bringing up a lovely young lady. Mich x
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