I dream of houses with open fires and gardens with plastic flowers and trampolines. I look at houses with open fires and gardens that could house fake foliage and bouncy things. I fill forms in, double check them and hand them to agents, sometimes along with a bundle of cash. Then I wait for the call that inevitably tells us the landlord went with someone else.




Eight months of househunting and we have not even a sniff of a moving date. We have put ourselves forward for five properties. All three/four bedroom houses. All bar one went to people without children, and even the one that did go a family, went to one with just one child way past toddlerhood.

It seems landlords when given a choice, and they all get a choice in our town so lacking in rental property, choose not to let their family sized homes to people with young children. I want to be angry at them, but it is their house, their choice and they probably think their investment is safer out of a three year old’s reach.

I want to be angry at the couples who are taking up houses with two or three more bedrooms than they need, but it is their prerogative to have a spare room and an office if they can afford it.

It is a shame we can’t buy. A mortgage on the sort of house we need would be less than we would pay to rent a similar property, however despite a sizeable deposit we cannot borrow enough to buy.

So we cannot buy and we cannot find anyone to rent to us. We seem to have slipped into a gap in the housing market, we can afford to move but cannot find anywhere to move to. I take the rejections to heart, even though I know there is no malice intended. It brings back memories of being picked last for PE. It makes me feel inferior, not good enough.

Well, I am drawing a line in the sand. I want to feel settled and I don’t want to be grumpy anymore. OK, so we have no garden where we live now, but we do have a gloriously sized 2 floor maisonette. It laughs in the face of many the little boxes we have looked it. It has no lawn, but our lounge is practically the size of a 5 a side pitch. We will stay here, and make the best of it. Our home has no garden, and no wood burner, but it does have a whole lot of love in it and that is enough.

Love Miss Cisco XXX



  1. September 10, 2014 / 10:28 am

    Sounds very frustrating but good to hear you feel more positive about your current home, having seen what’s out there. Who wants a wood-burner anyway and gardens just require lots of work 😉
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  2. Anne Wallwin
    September 10, 2014 / 11:35 am

    i know some people use facebook in there local area to contact landlords direct and then go via an agent.

  3. September 10, 2014 / 12:00 pm

    How frustrating! I don’t suppose you’d consider moving to a different area? But you’re right, sometimes it’s best to stop chasing something that’s not happening. Maybe it’s still worth keeping an eye on the classifieds though, just in case?
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    • September 10, 2014 / 12:12 pm

      We are limited to this town due to custody arrangements for my ten year old – and it isn’t big enough to have different areas – that’s part of the problem- there is such limited stock of rental properties and too many people looking!

    • September 10, 2014 / 1:25 pm

      Sadly not, we have a 25% deposit of our own but can’t borrow enough to buy a 3 bed house – maybe in the future where I can earn a bit more we might be able too – but with childcare costs etc I am not sure we will ever be much better off!

  4. September 10, 2014 / 2:44 pm

    Good for you! Probably the wisest choice to stop putting yourself through all this stress. I can imagine how demoralising it must feel, so for that reason it seems sensible to just draw a line under it and carry on living where you are.
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  5. September 10, 2014 / 6:41 pm

    Sorry to hear you still haven’t found a home to rent… it must have been so frustrating for you. You could approach this like trying ages for a baby, just stop, don’t think about it, enjoy life the way it is, and then hopefully something will turn up out of the blue. X
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    • September 12, 2014 / 7:06 am

      That’s usually the way things work! Have left my rightmove alerts on for a few more weeks, but am not going to actively look beyond that- but soon I will have to get forms in for Syd starting school and as our current flat straddles the catchment area line I will the have to wait until allocation in April before we can look again or we could end up a 45 minute walk from his school.
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  6. September 10, 2014 / 7:31 pm

    You are in the most frustrating situation of all and it kind of outrages me. WHY is there not practical help for families in your situation? But I can’t really say that as I am part of the problem. I am completely guilty of this. I really am. I rent out a flat that I mortgaged when I could and i ticked the ‘No DSS’ box because thats what the letting agents advised me to do. Likewise no smokers and no pets. It is a small flat in Cardiff and no good to you but you have made me rethink that box. I WILL have a chat with the letting agents next time the tenants move out.
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    • Sonya Cisco
      September 10, 2014 / 8:10 pm

      Now if we added DSS to the three kids thing we definitely would never find anywhere to take us, luckily the one thing going for us is we are not in receipt of benefits. Good on you for re-thinking as most people in receipt of housing benefit are reliable and lovely- and the majority of them are in work- it’s just rents outstrip wages these days and a top up is often needed.

  7. September 10, 2014 / 9:06 pm

    This must be such a frustrating situation for you guys. I hope something comes along for you soon. Sometimes these things happen when you least expect them x
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  8. September 10, 2014 / 9:09 pm

    “Home” is so important – and it can be a bitter pill to swallow, when you find that your choice is limited and you’re required to settle (whether you want to or not) through no fault of your own. All the obvious advantages in the world don’t necessarily outweigh what your heart yearns for.

    I’m sorry that after spending so much time, money and effort on finding a new home, things haven’t worked out as you’d hoped. With winter coming, though, that enormous lounge sounds worth more than any garden anyway!
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  9. September 14, 2014 / 7:25 pm

    I wasn’t in the same situation as you but I was on the social housing for ages and I gave up on finding anywhere.I just made the best of what we had and forgot about for awhile.Give it another shot in the new year when you’ve had time to explore other options.
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