A Lesson Learnt From Odd Shoes

Syd wanted to go out in odd shoes the other day. I said no.

‘Why not?’

Um. Bloody good question actually.

‘Because you might feel wonky.’

He walks around the room in the odd shoes without a hint of instability.

Um. Well, I was going to say because people will think you are weird. Or they will think that I am a crap parent who is incapable of dressing my child properly.

But actually those are not very good reasons are they, as they are all about what other people think, and none of their thoughts would be based on very good logic.

My child is warm and wearing shoes, therefore I am a good parent who has considered the clothing requirements of a trip outside on a cold damp day.

And who cares if people think you are weird if you are happy?

Wearing odd shoes may be unusual, but do I actually want to teach him that to be unusual is wrong or do I want to teach him that people in all their myriad of varieties are to be accepted for who they are, that to be different does not equal wrong, that to be unique is a precious thing not a scary one.

The latter, obvs. So he went out in odd shoes. And I learnt a lesson about not making snap decisions and that the world doesn’t cave in if you let your small person go out with non matching foot wear.

 

They are not even that dissimilar are they?!

They are not even that dissimilar are they?!

 

My toddler joyously stomped down the road in his un pair of shoes, one flashing red, one flashing blue. He was proud of his choice, and I was proud of myself for just letting him make his decision. Some days it is the little things that make you feel like today is a good parenting day. Some times it is the little person in your life that teaches you to be less scared of stepping outside the norm. Once upon a time I craved that with my multi coloured hair styles and my desire to swim against the stream – never dreaming I would grow up to be boring enough to worry what others may think. Never once did I step out in odd shoes though – maybe tomorrow…..

Love Miss Cisco XXX

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  1. Emily
    January 23, 2015 / 10:28 am

    I’m a keen fan of odd socks so why not odd shoes?! Brilliant idea.

  2. January 23, 2015 / 10:43 am

    My best friend insists on wearing odd socks. Her 9 year old daughter is now exactly the same. Its funny, quirky and makes them individual.

    Sometimes I have to step back and remember that the little battles are not worth fighting and if they are confident enough to step outside in odd shoes (or dressed like Elsa in my case), then why the hell not ๐Ÿ™‚
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  3. January 23, 2015 / 11:03 am

    You are so right. As someone who is needing to learn to be different recently, I can tell you it’s not easy after a lifetime of wanting to fit in. I’ve had to wave goodbye to a few people too, and that has been hard. So to teach, and allow someone to learn the value of being who you need to be at a young age is such a good thing to be doing. What a lovely mum you are x
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  4. January 23, 2015 / 11:15 am

    I love this! I’m a big fan of oddness and always wear odd socks intentionally. I also used to wear odd shoes, the same style but different colours ๐Ÿ˜€

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  6. January 23, 2015 / 2:15 pm

    Oh I love this post. I have spent a lot of my time telling mini that he clothes were on back to front, inside out etc, for him to only ever say – so what! Well him and you are right
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  7. January 23, 2015 / 4:13 pm

    Love this! I probably would have had a huge argument with him, endured a tantrum, made him change, got stressed…and for what?! Next time something like this happens to me I’ll try to just go with it. Great lesson!
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  8. January 23, 2015 / 4:36 pm

    I LOVE Syd, almost as much as I love you! It’s SO true – we can so often tow the party line, then realise we don’t really have a reason for doing so! My son Akira adores colour, so I let him wear any colour he likes. Some days he’s like a walking rainbow and I love how proud he is of being different and proud to be raising a non-conformer! x
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  9. January 23, 2015 / 5:51 pm

    my son likes to wear his shoes on wrong feet, his clothes backwards or inside out. I only stop him wearing his clothes this way at school because it’s a very judgy school that do call social services or you in office over stuff like this. I tell him he has to wear his shoes on tight feet because I don’t want him falling or damaging his feet. None of this stops him though and he just does it more so I have embraced it as it is just him and at home he can do what he likes.
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  10. January 23, 2015 / 5:53 pm

    Good for you….I worry far too much what other people think and I shouldn’t and you’ve highlighted it for me! Thank you. ๐Ÿ™‚
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  11. January 23, 2015 / 7:30 pm

    Eek they are so similar I had to stare at the picture to work out the difference! My youngest went out in a black plimsol and a knee-high blue welly the other day. I always feel like a terrible mother but at the end of the day they’re just shoes!!!! And I’d rather him be happy and a bit different than force him to wear what he ‘should’ lol! Great post
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  12. January 23, 2015 / 7:36 pm

    yup I agree. my eldest likes wearing odd socks and i don’t stop her bveacuse she makes nothing bad
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  13. January 23, 2015 / 8:56 pm

    Yay, good for you. I think this is wonderful, I’ve always been one to let my kiddies wear what they like too. If I think they’re going to be too cold etc then I just make sure we have what they might need with us just in case. What a fab way for children to learn to make decisions them selves and see the consequences, good and bad of some of those choices. We can’t expect them to make decent decisions in later life if they haven’t had the experience when they were little.
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  14. January 23, 2015 / 9:19 pm

    I think it is great that you let Syd wear odd shoes!
    You are so right – who cares what others think. I need to take this approach with my toddler. She likes to try and choose her own clothes but it has not gone too well yet.
    Maybe tomorrow i will go with her choice. As long as she is warm and happy x

  15. January 23, 2015 / 10:08 pm

    With this choice of shoes I wouldn’t even notice ๐Ÿ˜‰ I happened to come to work in odd shoes once, since they were both black ballerina pumps! Same happened to couple of my uni friends, and we all just laughed, took some pictures and posted them on Facebook to show the world how silly we were ๐Ÿ˜‰ I guess some people would think you’re mad and can’t dress a child properly, but at the same time anyone with a toddler should probably understand ๐Ÿ˜‰
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  16. January 23, 2015 / 10:13 pm

    You must be very calm to just go with the flow and allow your son to wear unmatched shoes. As long as he was comfortable, there should be no problems.
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  17. January 24, 2015 / 7:47 am

    This took me back to the days when my (now 16-yearold) toddler daughter lived in wellies and PJs wherever we went. I drew the line at wellies in bed (they would have kept her awake) but the rest of the time I just let her be herself. Kids have enough time when they have to conform by wearing school uniform so it’s lovely to let them be different when they have the chance!
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  18. January 24, 2015 / 8:43 am

    The shoes are actually remarkably similar. He has a whole life of needing to conform to a certain level (matching shoes will definitely be required at school!), so I think it’s great that he can be himself now. I love to see little kids out wearing wellies and party dresses with a Spiderman hat on, because who really cares what they look like? They’re happy and that’s what matters. Syd will soon learn about the opinions of others and make the decision to wear matching shoes.
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  19. January 24, 2015 / 1:12 pm

    It’s fab that Syd’s getting to wear what he wants to and not conforming to what’s expected of him. The poor mite has years of school uniform scrutiny ahead – so it’s good to rebel while he can!
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  20. January 24, 2015 / 6:55 pm

    Love this and also brings back memories for me. I always try to follow that mantra of choosing which battles are worth fighting and odd shoes don’t seem like one of them! When my daughter was little, she wanted to wear pyjamas to nursery. I also said no first, then I thought “why not?” So, she wore them and was really happy. And the next day, various parents said to me that their kids wanted to wear pyjamas now, because of Jess……
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  21. January 24, 2015 / 7:20 pm

    OOh now I can’t even wear odd socks without having a meltdown, so odd shoes would really set me off on one x
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  22. January 24, 2015 / 7:28 pm

    This is a great post and very thought provoking. I have often seen children out in odd outfits and, before I was a parent myself wondered why on earth they had come out dressed like that, however, now I have children I think it is good to let them express themselves however they choose and not give a damn what other people thinkยฑ

  23. January 25, 2015 / 8:46 am

    Haa haa – Eliza tried this but I wouldny give in – its a bit different with girly shoes though
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  24. January 25, 2015 / 1:27 pm

    My little peeps, and the Mr for that matter, always wear odd socks. Odd shoes is awesome! It’s great to encourage individuality x
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  25. January 26, 2015 / 11:47 am

    I kinda love that he went out in odd shoes, these quirky traits are definitely those that make for a strong personality and who cares who looks and thinks it’s odd. He’s a kid and if he loves it then good on you letting him out like that. x
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  26. Anne Wallwin
    January 31, 2015 / 7:56 pm

    it is amazing how people judge your parenting skiils based on your childs footwear!

  27. February 2, 2015 / 5:58 pm

    I was just about to say that they are actually very similar when I saw you said that yourself on the comment on the pic. I went into Aaron’s school today to read two books to his class. They were both about the fact that it is okay that we all come in different shapes and sizes ๐Ÿ™‚ Good on you for allowing him to be different ๐Ÿ™‚ xx
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  28. February 5, 2015 / 8:19 pm

    My dad went to work once in odd shoes. One was brown and another was black. He was going to an important meeting, so it didn’t work out very well and he had to stop by to buy a new pair of shoes.
    But I actually think that your choice was the best one. It certainly showed your son that unconventional thinking and choices are acceptable. And will help him to be more creative in the future, and to think outside the box.

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