Syd wanted to go out in odd shoes the other day. I said no.
Um. Bloody good question actually.
‘Because you might feel wonky.’
He walks around the room in the odd shoes without a hint of instability.
Um. Well, I was going to say because people will think you are weird. Or they will think that I am a crap parent who is incapable of dressing my child properly.
But actually those are not very good reasons are they, as they are all about what other people think, and none of their thoughts would be based on very good logic.
My child is warm and wearing shoes, therefore I am a good parent who has considered the clothing requirements of a trip outside on a cold damp day.
And who cares if people think you are weird if you are happy?
Wearing odd shoes may be unusual, but do I actually want to teach him that to be unusual is wrong or do I want to teach him that people in all their myriad of varieties are to be accepted for who they are, that to be different does not equal wrong, that to be unique is a precious thing not a scary one.
The latter, obvs. So he went out in odd shoes. And I learnt a lesson about not making snap decisions and that the world doesn’t cave in if you let your small person go out with non matching foot wear.
My toddler joyously stomped down the road in his un pair of shoes, one flashing red, one flashing blue. He was proud of his choice, and I was proud of myself for just letting him make his decision. Some days it is the little things that make you feel like today is a good parenting day. Some times it is the little person in your life that teaches you to be less scared of stepping outside the norm. Once upon a time I craved that with my multi coloured hair styles and my desire to swim against the stream – never dreaming I would grow up to be boring enough to worry what others may think. Never once did I step out in odd shoes though – maybe tomorrow…..
Love Miss Cisco XXX