Living In Limbo

So back at the end of November we had a small shock when we discovered our landlords of five years are moving premises, which means our tenure in the flat above their current shop will also come to an end.

Nearly two months later they are still there, we are still here, but is all a bit temporary. They are still moving, and will be in their new premises by the middle of next month. But we still haven’t had our official 2 months notice to leave. It will arrive at some point in the next few weeks, but no one is quite sure when. Which frankly makes checking the post in the morning a task I approach with trepidation.


which house


We have of course been house hunting ever since we found out that our time here will be up at some point, but other than two places we viewed in early December and deemed unsuitable while we still have the pleasure of time on our side, nothing has come up.

I don’t mean nothing nice has come up, I mean literally nothing has come up. The only three bed places to have come onto the rental market since then have had ‘one older child considered’ in their details. Well, I have three kids, one of them is older, an adult technically in fact, and I am guessing the 11 year old could therefore take her place and be classed as the ‘one older child’. And I could hide Syd in an oversized pocket I suppose?!

Seriously though, three bedroom houses that don’t want more than one child seems a little mean to me. There are times at 4am when I get myself into a proper panic that we will end up with nowhere to go. Daylight forces me to be more rational, although there is still a nagging doubt at the back of my mind.

There is no social housing that we can access. As financially solvent people we don’t even qualify to go on the list. So where do we turn if the situation continues to be that there is literally nothing available. I have shared custody of my middle son, so cannot move to a different area unless I give him up – clearly that is not an option. So I just continue peering in estate agent windows and hoping my rightmove alerts ping me an email, and praying that somewhere comes up, that will take us, that we like, that will do, before our time is up.

In the mean time everything seems a bit limbo-ey. I had to make Syd’s school application based on where we live now not where we may be living by September. There is no point in purchasing new lampshades or furnishings as I had planned to do, as we don’t know what will work where we live next. As somebody who is a home person, who works from home, who stays at home with my youngest, I am finding it unsettling to not be able to visualise the rest of the year. I am trying to view it with excitement, new opportunities, maybe the garden we have yearned for, but until we have something signed I think a state of mild panic will remain my baseline mood.

Yours somewhat grumpily,

Miss Cisco XXX



  1. January 16, 2015 / 11:18 am

    I can imagine how utterly frustrating this is, as I am a home bird like you. It is my haven and it has to be right for my family. I am now thinking positive house vibes for you and I believe that the right house is just round the corner (hopefully in the practical sense too). xx
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  2. January 16, 2015 / 12:04 pm

    Moving house is stressful at the best of times, but always worse at the start of the year as it is when there is the least amount of potential houses available. I am planning to move later in the year as well and it is already filling me with dread so I know how you feel. Hopefully it will all work out and your dream home will turn up soon. Good luck!
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  3. January 16, 2015 / 12:59 pm

    I know the feeling! We on the other hand, haven’t had any viewing since we put up our house for sale last year! Like you, I’m not making any plans, or at least trying not to. As for rentals, I noticed that there have been really lovely houses up for rent in our little village, albeit pricey, which is annoying, because the locals can’t afford rent like that! If worse comes to worse, we plan to have our house rented out, which will be affordable to locals! Not that we can price our house higher, it isn’t as lovely as “second-homes” which are what’s on the rental/sale market right now.
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  4. January 16, 2015 / 2:03 pm

    So sorry to hear that nothing has come up for you yet. It must be such a worry and very unsettling. January does see a pick up in the housing market, rental and buying, I’m seeing lots of new sale and let signs going up near me. Fingers crossed the same will happen near you and you’ll get your dream house with a garden.
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  5. January 16, 2015 / 2:11 pm

    I remember who crappy it felt to be in your situation. I have a spare room, which you won’t all fit in and is nowhere near where you live but you’re welcome to it honey! I have everything crossed that the perfect house turns up really soon! x x
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  6. January 16, 2015 / 2:34 pm

    Oh my, what a horrible frustrating position to be in. The whole property market (both rental and sales) is just in a right state at the moment and I completely feel for people who need to move right now. Is there absolutely no chance that you can stay put then? Would the new landlords not like a well behaved sitting tenant?
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    • January 17, 2015 / 7:38 am

      There is a possibility that the owner may be happy to keep us on and lease the shop separately, but we have no way of contacting them as our lease is through the company currently in the shop – they have said they will ask when they give their formal notice, but as I know the housing market is very sparse I feel a maybe is not enough for us to not keep looking for now!
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  7. January 16, 2015 / 2:56 pm

    Oh no how frustrating!! I hope something suitable comes up for you really soon! xx
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  8. January 16, 2015 / 6:30 pm

    Poor you, that would really unsettle me. Hope it is all resolved soon x
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  9. January 16, 2015 / 6:37 pm

    Have you been to your local authority? the reason I ask is that we were in a ‘homeless’ situation 3 years ago, we were put on the list for a council house but quite frankly stood no chance due to the silly points situation, we were in emergency accommodation first & then moved to temporary, after a year in temp. we were offered a private rental, which was affordable rent wise & we’ve been here for the last 2.5 years. What I’m getting at is that the councils can help you sooner rather than later & often have details of private landlords.
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    • January 16, 2015 / 6:40 pm

      Not yet, but if we have had no luck finding anywhere when that 2 months notice letter arrives I will be ringing them for advice straight away. Thanks for commenting and glad you are settled now.
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  10. January 16, 2015 / 6:46 pm

    What a horrible position to be in – made even worse when you have children to think about. It really frustrates me when people letting family homes don’t want children living there, how ridiculous! I really hope something perfect comes up soon and you can get on with the rest of 2015 without the stress and worry x
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  11. January 16, 2015 / 8:52 pm

    WHAT – how can a landlord of the three bedroom house dictate how many children can live in the house?
    The housing market in the UK is totally ballcock. It really is odd and off kilter. We are one of the lucky ones that are on the housing ladder, but I fear for my kids. I really do
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  12. January 16, 2015 / 8:55 pm

    Bless you this sounds totally stressful and that is so weird that they don’t want more kids in the house even though there’s three rooms. I really hope you find somewhere soon! x
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  13. January 16, 2015 / 10:54 pm

    It’s ridiculous that landlords don’t want kids in three-bedroom properties! And why would you want three bedrooms if you don’t have kids anyway? I hope that something comes up for you soon so that you can stop worrying.
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  14. January 16, 2015 / 10:58 pm

    Such a frustrating time for you all Sonya. I know how unsettled I get when our routine changes even a bit or I have worries so I really admire how well you are coping. I really hope something comes up soon x
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  16. January 17, 2015 / 9:28 am

    I’m not surprised you’re in a mild state of panic – I would be too! It seems ridiculous that three bed houses are not available for families with kids. Because what exactly is the point of having three bedrooms if you don’t have kids to put in them?!
    Your words about your middle child hit me hard – I can’t bear the thought of being forced into a position of having to give up a child.
    Keeping my fingers firmly crossed for you all that something comes up soon. x
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    • January 17, 2015 / 9:51 am

      Yes! his Dad lives in the same town as us, and as it is a small town shared custody has been easy – but it does mean even a move of a few miles out of town is impossible without shaking up the pretty stable system we have in place which currently means we both get to spend equal time with him. Obviously the idea of giving up my time with him in order to access cheaper and more available properties elsewhere is an absolute no go as far as I am concerned – nor would I think it was fair to reduce his Dads share of family time because of my housing woes – the only answer is to stay in town!
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  17. January 17, 2015 / 11:03 am

    I do feel for you it is a horrible situation to be in. I hope that something just perfect turns up before your letter.
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  18. January 17, 2015 / 1:17 pm

    That must be so stressful… I have everything crossed that you find something soon…

  19. January 17, 2015 / 2:52 pm

    I cant imagine how frustrated you are right now and I really do hope you find a solution x

  20. January 18, 2015 / 10:58 pm

    I can’t even imagine how this must feel. I don’t understand why 3 bedroom places won’t take children…that’s ridiculous surely?! I really hope something comes up soon for you.
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  21. January 19, 2015 / 10:01 am

    Totally feel for you – it’s so horrible not being able to put your roots down properly. I really hope that soon you’ll be looking back on this and realising that it was the best thing that could have happened.
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